I am new here, I am so desperate for an answer that I consulted google just to get an answer. I’ve been married 5 years already and my marriage is like a routine, on a workweek (M-F): we both get up in the morning & get ready for work, I go home to take care of HIS dog while he goes and hit some golf balls for an hour. We get home at 5:30 from work, he leaves to go the gym, I go walk HIS dog for 2 hours, I come home and make dinner, he comes home @ 9 pm-eats-watches a little TV with me-he takes shower-let the dog out in the yard to go potty-he goes to bed and waits for me to scratch his back until he falls asleep, I clean up the dishes-take shower-go to bed-scratch his back.

On the Saturdays, he wakes up @ 9am – let the dog go potty – he turns on TV and watches ESPN all day long or go golfing with his buddies. I get out of bed @ 9:30 get ready for Saturday hike with the dog, I come home and make a late lunch for myself wait for husband to come home and see if we’re doing anything together, if I’m lucky he’d ask me to go to out to dinner or just stay home and watch TV.

On Sundays, he wakes up @ 9am – let the dog go potty, mows the lawn – he turns on TV and watch all day long – goes to the gym and back home @ 6pm, I wake up the same time – get my cleaning tools- every time I’ve ask for him to help he’ll say “Not right now, I’m watching TV�, I sort the laundry and put them in the machine then dryer, I leave my chores to go to laundrymat to wash comforters, I come back to resume my chores (vacuum, sweep the garage, laundry, dishes, clean the whole house), he comes back from the gym and I’m still cleaning, he turns on his XBOX and play while I’m still on my knees cleaning toilet, his sink and washing his clothes.

We’ve talked about dividing the chores equally and he picks the not-so-nasty chores like mowing lawns, vacuuming and he says he’ll do chores when he wants to do it and when he does, I end up re-cleaning it because it’s not clean enough or he takes too many rests and leaves his chores unfinished. I can’t handle dirty house and when he doesn’t finish them, I always end up doing them.

We’ve also talked about how I need to relax and do something else with him but the only thing we do is eat out and watch movies (just on the weekend). I am bored out of my mind and hate that he doesn’t help out as much as I need him to. Can you tell me if I have the right to be mad? Should I make him sleep in the other room and put his toiletries in the other bathroom, make him wash his own clothes so he can see how dirty he gets and he’ll know how lazy he is? The sad thing is, he won’t admit that he is so freaking lazy!!! Every time this happens, I get so irritated that I ignore him, lock myself in the bedroom and not talk to him for couple of days. I wouldn’t mind cleaning the house if I am a trophy wife (wife who gets everything she wants) and I don’t work 9 hours everyday. What should I do or say to him?