boyfriend cheating? whats considered cheating?

Relationship Problems

My boyfriend is online alot, thats where we met originally although neither one of us was looking for it. he has alot of online friends. 99% of them are women, says thats who he gets along with better as he is an only child raised by his mother. He works wierd shifts and is somtimes up until 4 or 5 in the morning, usually on the internet playing games or chatting on MSN with friends. Lately hes been talking to a lot of girls and letting me read what they say mind u, but still has overly friendly talks with them.

If they say something a little risque or wahtever he doenst say oh i have a girlfriend he just plays along with it and laughs. He'll let them know another time that i exist but hes not overly offering with the information. I just dont kwno what to think, i've been cheated on before and i just dont want that to happen here. Maybe i'm just overly cautious...maybe i'm looking for somthing thats just not there. I checked out his myspace that he went onto only because some girl said he should and he seems friendly with the 2 friends (girls) that are on there. I ask him about it and he tells me all about it.I just wonder if hes leaving info out.

I told him before what i consider cheating "If you wouldnt do it with your partner beside you there then its considered cheating". I stole that from Dr. Phil but i definatly agree with it. Is there anything else i should be looking for? or i'm i just looking to hard? please help...i dont want this fear of mine to ruin our relationship if theres nothing to be worried about.

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listen to inner thoughts

Maybe im the wrong person to advise you here because of my own problems are simular but very much worse, my partner went to great lengths to cover his up. Your partner seems to be upfront with you, but in my own experiences this could also be the case that he wants to show u things so as to "look good" but then keep the other things that he does not want to show you secret. I would say listen to your inner thoughts and yes be wary.

This may all be innocent and it is possiable to have the same sex friends with out nothing going on, but what makes me wonder as prob you is why he stays up so late and why if he loves you he feels the need to talk to so many ladies..... Do you talk to men like this on msn etc? does he ask you if you do? The trouble is that you also no how he was wen you met up so whats stopping him doing it with others. But saying all of this, please dont go into over drive and accuse him of left right and centre. There is a way of saving all conversations which im guess he does anyway.

One other question have you told him how you are feeling? Have you ask him to stop all of this?

good luck hope it works out for you!!