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Submitted by richard on Thu, 15/02/2007 - 11:19. General

Hello I'm new here and hoping you all may be able to help me a little or point me in the right direction.
The thing is I have a girlfriend I have been with now for 2 years, I love her very much and spend every possible minute with her.

However I have real problems showing any sort of emotion towards her. I never experienced this in my last relationship, in fact I cried an awful lot in that, but over the last 6 years of my life I have not cried, except once when I was explaining the situation with my ex to her after she asked about it. i

I was with my ex for about 6 years, was married but now am divorced. I feel I am completely over her, however I still do not show any emotion towards my new girl. Even when she cries and we are practically splitting up I still dont cry and struggle to even show emotion on my face. I know the simplest thing is probably to say I am not over my ex but this is not how I feel and is not the only time I experience trouble showing emotion.

My parents split and I don't really care, my grandad died and I didn't go to his funeral. I feel there is something more in depth wrong, here can anyone help me ?

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sorry if i have not made

Submitted by richard on Fri, 16/02/2007 - 11:07.

sorry if I have not made myself clear with reference to the reply.
I am not feeling any sort of feelings, I just feel blank if you know what I mean?
The problem lies with my girlfriend not believing the way I say I feel as I do not show any emotion when we are on the verge of break up. However I know how I would feel if the role was reversed and thats not how I want her to be feeling as I love her dearly.

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Thank you for this clarificatio

Submitted by mpramage on Sat, 17/02/2007 - 09:27.

Thank you for clearing that up.
I suggest you see a psychologist or psychotherapist for assessment. You are not mentally ill, or mad, don't worry, but you are cut off from yourself in some way and this could possibly be helped. It does cause problems in relationship0s, as you are experiencing.

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Showing or feeling?

Submitted by mpramage on Thu, 15/02/2007 - 16:04.

It is not entirely clear what the problem is here, or who it is a problem for.

Is it that you are feeling things and not showing her them, or are you actually not feeling things?

If you have feelings you don't want to share, and keep them hidden that is one thing. If you have feelings and you don't know how to show them, that doesn't really fit in with all the crying you did when you were younger and presumably at an earlier stage of maturity.

If you are currently not feeling things where earlier you would have done, then you might consider seeing somebody like a doctor about that.

What you seem to be saying is that actually you don't feel things when most other people would, which is a different thing from the above. If that is the case, then you might think about seeing a psychologist for an assessment, or you might want to accept that this is how you are.

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