confused (because my fiance seems addicted to porn)

Internet Porn Addiction

hi I am new to this site. I'm hoping someone can give me some advice. I've been living with my fiance for one year now and other than his porn addiction and staring at other women in front of me we've had a great relationship.
About two months ago he decided to try and stop his addiction. He started therapy but soon felt he could do it on his own and the therapy was not helpful. Recently he told me he is struggling a lot and does not know how long he can go without porn. He claims he has a strong need to see the naked body's of other women. This sentence really hurt and upset me greatly.
I have been extremly depressed and unable to do much. I cry constantly and even think about suicide. I feel confused as to what I should do next. He claims he loves me but I don't know how is possible to love someone but still say you need to look at other naked women having sex. He tries to prove he loves me but I cannot accept. i
I do love him a lot and I dont want to leave but maybe its the only thing to do. Maybe someone can help me understand how it is possible for a man who claims he is deeply in love with me but still has a strong need to stare at other women and watch porn almost daily, knowing it kills me.

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What a sad time you are having, and no wonder you are confused.
I suggest you go to www.amazon.co.uk and get one or two books on sex addiction and co-dependency, anything by Patrick Carnes and Pia Mellody would be good. This will help you assess the situation. Not being able to go without porn would seem like addiction to me.

Sometimes leaving is the only thing, as people deny the harm they are doing to those who love them. You are getting depressed, and that is not good. Of course he loves you, but not in a healthy way. If he is addicted to porn and so on, he is not capable of loving in a healthy way.

Learn more about the whole topic, so you can make decisions from some understanding and discusion with him.