That's so weird coz its the exact opposite to my prob. My S.Other rarley comes through sex alone - only through oral and me masturbating him!! BUT when we were first together he couldn't come orally. I am very persistent and eventually it happened, tho it took me well over an hour. The shortcut is to ask him what feels better, not just if what you're doing feels good - he's always going to say yes. Not all guys like the same thing, which was a shock to me.

I'd being married for 15 years previous to meeting my current partner and just thought what I had always done would work - it doesn't. I asked my partner for help as he alone knows what does it for him. He may be embarrassed or frightened of hurting your feelings but let him know how important it is to you. Be prepared to spend a long time on it, its frustrating and requires patience. It may be simple (my partner HATES any background noise, and I like romantic music and always had it on when we made love - this distraction was enough to stop him coming!). Good Luck.

But you see, I DO ask him what feels better. Every now && then I'll stop & do something new, get a new reaction (the majority of the time it'll be a better one), && I'll stop && ask him if it feels good. He'll say something like you said, "Yes, it feels sooo good", but then I tell him that when I do something that feels especially good to let me know. That when I do something that he thinks will help, to let me know, && I'll keep doing what I'm doing, or I'll keep it in a close range to the same thing, but I'm ALWAYS switching it up, trying new things. I've gone for a good 20 minutes to a half hour, && my jaw starts getting really sore. Or he'll feel like he's gonna come, && right before he does, it just POOF! Gone for some reason =[

My boyfriend never comes through oral, and only rarely comes with a hand job if I'm persistent. He's quite shy about sex and so I'm really trying to get him to tell me what he likes more, but it's hard. He is the first man I've ever met who is not begging for oral most of the time! He seems like he could give or take it, really. I'm determined to make him come through oral soon though. I'm not sure where his problem lies but I think it's cleanliness or mouth based. He hardly ever goes down on me either (don't get me started).

I never get oral because my partner has hangups from when she was a little girl, and insists she doesn't enjoy giving it or getting it, which, for me, is even worse, since I'd love to go down on her and enjoy making her cum all night!

Thankfully, we do both enjoy intercourse, and she cums powerfully and soon that way. She says I'm "big" and fill her so tightly that it drives her into orbit -- and it certainly seems to, because she cums in just a few minutes of thrusting! I find her so deliciously snug and moist in there that, as she moves with me, I cum soon after, too, so we both get to enjoy pleasuring the other that way. (Sometimes, we both cum at once, which is like launching into orbit!)

Sex is so fabulous. I can only suggest honest discussion (not during sex) about what may help. We've been married for several decades (!), and we still crave each other, so it can work for an older couple too! If she appears nearly naked or even just kisses me passionately, I'm up and hard in a flash, and, when she sees my erection, she immediately wants to have me in her!

If your man really cares, he should be eager to please you -- orally or otherwise -- just as much as you want to please him. If not, then I suggest you think hard about whether you can give up sex to keep the relationship. I wouldn't want to -- it's too damned important to me!

Good luck, hon.