Im 19 years old and met a girl when I was out in a club, we liked each other from the start and exchanged numbers, we met a number of times each weekend at this club over the next 6 weeks. We phoned each other every weekday over the 6 weeks too, she told me that she cares for me a lot and wants things to work between us and that she likes me so much, after the 6 weeks I asked her to be my girlfriend, we live quite far away (different towns) and both don't drive, it is however only a bus ride away. We met each other every weekend at this club, however the bad thing was she was with her friends and I was with mine, it was great for a while, we kiss'd and danced and held each other all night, she slept at my house and went home the next day.

3 weeks later we were out on a Thursday and a girl (friend) from my work was out with us, this girl had a little dance with me, nothing serious and my girlfriend saw it and ran away, I went after her and tried to speak to her, but she was talking to some guy, I stood next to her and this guy said 'do we know him' she laughed and just said 'yeah I do' she started to hug and kiss the guy on the cheek right infront of me, so I ran away to another part of the club.
I told her sister that she was practically kissing another guy in front of me, her sister told my girlfriend what I had said and she went crazy at me, apparently the guy was one of her closest friends and was gay. I apologised and explained that this girl is just a friend who has her own boyfriend, that I was sorry to accuse her of things, even though she had just accused me of somthing 5 minutes earlier, and that she is the only girl I want.
We sort of made up we kissed each other good night and she went home with her sister and friends. The next day she was acting funny with me on the phone, saying she doesn't know if we should carry on because I dont trust her. I tried to reassure her and we went out again that Friday night.

We were fine all night, dancing, kissing holding each other close, I asked her to stay at my house that night after we got outside the club, she refused saying she had work the next day, but she wasn't in work untill 1pm, which would of gave her plenty of time to get home and get ready for work the next morning. She still refused and i was slightly upset by it, i didnt kiss her goodnite as she got in the taxi and went home with her sister, even though she was stood waiting for me to do so.

When i got in bed she txt me on my phone, asking what was wrong with me as she got in the taxi, i said i was upset because i wanted to spent the night with her, she said i was pathetic for getting annoyed at that, she said maybe things shouldnt carry on between us, and that she isnt ready for a relationship, i was very shocked i had no idea what was going on, to me we were just having a very tiny arguement about her not coming to my house that night. She then said she wants to see other people, and go back to the person she was before she met me. I was deeply hurt because i cared about her so much, and she was supposed to care about me too. I tried to phone her but she wouldnt answer, she said nite on a txt message and turned off her phone, i spent the rest of that night crying my eyes out.

The next morning i tried to phone her again, she wouldnt answer and said she doesnt want to talk to me, i said if she doesnt answer her phone i would goto her work and talk to her there, so she answered and we spoke. I was in tears over the phone, and she didnt even sound at all upset. I was askin why she was finishing with me, and asking what i have done wrong? She said it wasnt me, that it was her. She just doesnt want a relationship and wants to go out and have a good time. If this is true, than why has she been telling me for the past 8 weeks she cares about me so much and thinks about me all the time, and that she wants things to work between us because she doesnt want to lose me??? She told me to forget about her and get on with my life. It went from kissing, cuddling being together to she refuses to speak to me, doesnt want to be with me and wants me to leave her alone in only 10 hours. She said for me not to text or phone her and she was deleting my number, followed by a message saying 'have a nice life'. That night, i knew she would be out again so i went out very upset, she didnt appear in the usual club at 12:00pm, even though she always goes at 11:30, so i went home and was very upset. At 1:30 i got a phonecall on my mobile from a private number, i answered and they hung up. I knew it was her, because nobody else would do that. I fell back asleep and at 3:30 i recieved another call, she did the same, hung up after i answered, following this she text messaged me saying 'i thought you was going out tonight', i told her the reason i went home early was because i missed her alot and was thinking about her, she then said 'get over me and move on' 'whats done is done, things arnt going to change, you must just accept we arnt together'. But why did she phone me at 3:30am after saying she is going to delete my number?

She was cheated on by her last boyfriend and i believe her to be afraid of taking things further with me as she is afraid of getting hurt again, i care about her so much, i thing im falling in love with her and i would never do anything to hurt her. She told me she still likes me but just wants us to be friends, is this really because she is just scared of getting hurt? Or has she gone off me, I care about her so much i think about her every second. I cannot believe she has finished me, its all happened so fast and i dont know what to do, she has told me not to phone her ot text her and to leave her alone, but why did she message me last night? and give me 1 ringers? I want to know how she truly feels, What can i do? She wont answer her phone and im scared to ring her incase i scare her away by being too obsessive. Please give me some answers? Thanks in advance.