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My Wife is Afriad of Intercourse

Submitted by BrentK on Tue, 26/12/2006 - 05:28. Sex Problems for Women

My wife and I were married at the end of September after a very long engagement. We had been dating for 8 years. We love each other dearly and are attached at the hip.

Problem is she will not consumate the marriage. We go no farther then me performing oral sex on her which we both absolutely love but I still feel very unfulfilled.

My wife is deathly afraid of any kind of penetration down there, she will not allow me to insert any fingers aside from simply rubbing, she is deathly afraid to go to the Gyaecologist and she wouldn't dare even try a tampon.

I am simply at my wits end, she wants to get help but we don't know where to turn and I fear that this may bring an end to our marriage as I simply cannot take it anymore.

We live in the Midwestern US in a small town where you simply don't even talk about such things. Any kind of resource help on the web would be amazingly greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much for your Help

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There is help out there.

Submitted by mpramage on Tue, 26/12/2006 - 14:26.

It is very difficult to help someone who is too afraid to accept help, but if you search for vaginismus treatment and other vaginismus sites you may find what you are seeking. It is not that I think she has vaginismus, but they can offer that careful slow management that someone who is very afraid needs.
There may be deeper reasons for her not being able/not wishing to consumate the marriage, and to understand and overcome those you would need to consult a marriage therapist, and there are many registered and qualified people in the US. If you find the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, they will probably have a list for you to choose from.

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