Hello again to everyone,
I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with things in life right now when it comes to my family, and yes I know that that sounds terrible!! I'm a stay at home mom with my daughter and step son who are very close in age and both under the age of three which is a handful enough on its own. But in being a stay at home mom I am the one who does everything and takes care of whatever needs done around the house. I don't mind cleaning up, cooking, doing laundry, bathing kids, and chasing them all over the house all day when its just us at home.

But when my husband gets home and his 13 year old son they throw their stuff all over the place and sit and play PS3 or watch TV!! My husband does help a little but he works all day lifting heavy parcels and is gone from 6:00 am til about 6:00 pm so when he gets home he eats and relaxes for a bit and I can understand why! But his 13 year old son comes home and does nothing!! He walks past a mess and just looks at it or kicks it out of the way!! He does dishes and it has been his chore for the past 6 months and I still have to redo them the next day when I go into the coupord to get a plate or pot or pan to cook something because there is food all over it still!

He just barely wipes off the counters and leaves the grease or food all over the counter! I am looking outside right now and it is his job to take the garbage from the back door to the garbage which is 20 feet away and there is about 10 bags sitting out there right now!! I am going nuts and am sick of being the one who looks after everything all the time!! I just want some help thats all and it doesn't matter what I say things go back to how the were in just a few days!

I have talked to my husband about this a number of times and talked to his 13 year old many more, but I don't want my husband to think that I am always nagging at the 13 year old and that i am being unfair to him! I don't know what to do anymore and am more stressed out than ever but something has to change! He is 13 and he can pull his weight a little bit and i do know that he is in his teen years so he is going to be stubourn and fight about stupid things but i dont have the energy anymore!!