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Feeling like I'm abnormal

Submitted by confused and unsure on Sun, 19/11/2006 - 21:59. Sex Problems for Women

I'm 20 years old and have had 3 partners. When I lost my virginity I accepted that it'd probably hurt, what I didn't expect was to still experience pain and discomfort 3 years later whenever I have sex.

I have never had an orgasm, and due to stress and depression have, over the last year/eighteen months, suffered from repetitive thrush.

I feel like a freak because I simply do not enjoy sex, even if I have been wanting it up to the point of having it. This was a major factor in the break-up of my most recent relationship. I often feel discomfort, whether I've had sex or not, and now feel like I could happily never have sex again if it wasn;t for my desire to have children.

I don't feel comfortable talking to my GP and don't know what to do. Has anyone got any advice? I'm at my wits end. Life's stressful enough, sex should be one of the pleasures we get!

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i've been there

Submitted by Donnatella on Mon, 08/01/2007 - 14:41.

I am ashamed to be a voice of experience in the field of orgasmless-relationships. No one had ever made me come (except myself) until I was 20. So in a way, I was a virgin until last year.

After the first year of an orgasm-less relationship, one just feels like a masturbatory tool; a blow up doll. One slowly gives up hoping for an orgasm. One slowly begins to view sex as a selfish act on the part of ones partner. One slowly begins to resent ones partner for not trying or caring.

I eventually reaized I was a lesbian; at about age 19.

Take my warning. Don't waste years trying to make an orgasm-less relationship work, even if you are streight and think you are in love. Having a selfish partner should never be tolerated.

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