I am confused about my sex life with my husband of 28 years, we haven't made love for the last 5 months, it used to be only once a month anyway. He says that nothing is wrong, that he still loves me, and I do believe that, he is not having an affair I am sure about that too. He does have a lot of pain from his back which he had an operation on 6 years ago and is still in pain, he has epidural injections and Voltorol 50mg 3 times a day, I wondered if this could be the cause. He does get an erection but only if I really bully him into it, which isn't very nice for me, it isn't happening spontaneously like it used to. He has had a blood test at the doctors that came back ok, he just does not seem to be interested in having sex at all, he does still give me a kiss and a cuddle and is very affectionate and loving, so any ideas on what is going on with him. He says he will not go for counselling because nothing is wrong, help.