Hi, my partner and I were married only eight short weeks ago. I am 28 and he is 33 years old. Since our wedding we have had sex once. I have continually asked my partner what the problem is, is it me? The only response I get is that he is tired because he works full time. I also work full time and understand that he is tired but we dont work 7 days a week (only monday to friday) and his interest is basically non existent. When we go out he takes a great deal of notice of other women around him so I dont believe the issue is physical or medical.

After losing every ounce of confidence I have, I decided to speak with another male about this. I later mentioned to my partner that I had spoken with a Dr and that they had said that there would only be three reasons why we would be having these problems, those being A) he is seeing someone else; B) he is doing it himself or C) that there is medical issue that after a few tests we would be most likely able to resolve. After a huge fight and me accusing him of seeing someone else he said that he had been doing it himself because he is too tired to have sex with me. Over the past 8 weeks I have gone from a healthy 64 kgs at 5'10 to weighing only 54 kgs due to the stress of whats happening in my relationship.

My husband said that he would like to try to fix things between us but I have heard this so many times I dont expect anything will actually change. I have no idea why this has happened and he has no hesitation in informing me that he has never had this problem with his past partners. I feel as though I have made the biggest mistak of my life in getting married to this man and am unsure whether I can get enough of my confidence back to actually have sex with him again. Can you please give me some advice on how to deal with this before I actually end up a total mess, I honestly dont think I could feel any lower than I already do.

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