My boyfriend takes a long time to orgasm. Also, he cannot ejaculate inside of me. It takes either oral or hand stimulation, and that still takes a very long time. I know that it is not an attraction problem. He still makes me feel great, but I do feel a little inadequate even though I should not. He said that this has been a problem for many years.

First, he walked in on his wife having sex with another man in their home. In addition, for the last three years, he has been without women almost. He masturbated daily. He had two relationships with women, one lasted only two days, and one two weeks, basically they used him for sex. We have only been together for a few weeks.

In the past when I brought up the fact that he doesn't ejaculate inside of me, he either tried to blow it off, or said that he was a little nervous because I do live with my Mother, and have to be here because she is ill. When my Mother went into the hospital for a week, I thought the problem would be solved, but it wasn't. Am I not giving it enough time? Should I tell him that I think this is something that we need to discuss and work on now, or wait a while and be more patient?