I don't think any of these women have a problem with porn as such. I am one such person who enjoyed suprising my partner with special viewing and for my own enjoyment. The difference here is that when your partner can't live without it and your sex life disappears. Until you've lived with someone who is addicted to downloading, watching and rearranging their timetable around the viewing of porn, it is hard to understand.

I thought that maybe I was just hindering his sexual exploration by being cranky about his extensive use of porn except that any intimacy you may have had seems to disintegrate. I mean porn addicts view porn every single day and don't cope very well when they don't. You have less sex, and the quality is lacking. The kind of addiction we're talking about actually drives a wedge between partners. It's not about them fantasising which is normal and healthy, god everyone does it. It's actually about them fulfilling a need that's not even sexual. So try to understand that these women don't necessarily dislike porn, it's just difficult to live with someone who prefers it to a normal healthy sexual relationship.

I don't think you are "unfeminist" for watching porn. I am a woman who enjoys porn, too. Feminism is not about pretending that women don't enjoy sex--it is about finding ways to express the parts of our female natures that women have previously been denied the opportunity to express. Most women I know love sex--why should they not enjoy watching it on film?

There is a lot of porn out there that is exploitative and just plain ugly to women. The fact is, though, that a lot of women like to view those fantasies on film for sexual excitement, but don't actually want to perform them. Being taken by surprise, anal sex, and raunchy sex are all fantasy. As long as consenting adults are making the films, and consenting adults are watching them, I see it as much more "feminist" to enjoy your sexuality and lack of repression by watching the films than it is to hate yourself for liking porn and seeking therapy to alter your sexual fantasies. Live a little. Watch and enjoy the porn you like, and don't feel guilty about it.

Wake up, porn is an abuse towards women and any man who participates in it is contributing to the problems that face women daily. He is part of the reason women can't walk down the street ithout being ogled by filthy council workers. he is part of the reason mothers have to cover their childrens eyes when they walk into a newsagency where naked women (or mostly naked) cover the wallls. He is part of the reason that teenage girls are dying from anorexia in an effort to look beautiful. He is part of the reason women are mum has to explain to her kids that dad just ran off with a 20yr old cause she fitted the media image closer than the wife who gave life to his children. He is part of the reason pimps are making profit from exploiting young women who have troubled backgrounds and perhaps even drug problems.....(remember 90+percent of women in porn were sexually abused as children and are in no position to make a healthy choice for themselves) A man supporting this hideous industry is sad but a woman?

This is not a feminist issue its a humanistic issue.

Please note: This comment has been edited to remove material of a personally attacking nature.