Brother is ruining the family.

Family Problems

My younger brother of 19years has put our family through hell and back. And ive had enough. I am 25 years old. I live with my mum who has just finally gotten rid of my good for nothing dad. I have been her financial, emotional and spiritual rock, for many years. I dont begrudge her, she is my mother and I wouldnt have it any other way. I have had to be my younger brothers father and brother for many years as well.

My younger brother is very very volatile. He has a terribly violent temper where he goes into a blind rage and literally loses all control and reason. This affects his relationships with everyone he comes in contact with, notably his family and his girlfriend.

He is very disrespectful to me and my mum when he gets like this. I have made it clear I dont care how he speaks or treats me, but if he disrespects my mum, I will get involved because I wont stand for that.

He lies about everything. Where is he going, how he paid for this, where he got that from. He will blatantly steal your things then lie about it even when you have proof.

He started stealing from around 10years old. He was never satisfied with what he has had and always wanted more. One day he the collection money from our church. My mum was so ashamed she almost didn't go back.

He has stolen from his job, which resulted in him gettin arrested, fired and banned from any of the stores.
He has stolen from everyone in my house, dad, me, mum, girlfriend and her parents.

He has stolen money from my mums bank account by watchin her enter her pin.

His most recent endeavour was to steal my dads credit card, run up a bill of £300 and then open various shopping accounts in his name. I hoped my dad would proceed with fraud charges but he recently moved out of the house so its not his problem anymore.

He steals, my clothes, dvds, money, equipement from my room.

In school he was never far from trouble, adn he was actually barred from college in his final year, and only allowed back in to sit his A-level exams. IN his first year of uni, he spent most of it arguing and fightin with his girlfriend, to the point that the university wrote threatening to remove him from the course.

He has stolen my car and run of with it to fight and argue, and chase down his girlfriend.

He has had strangers coming to our house chasing money and goods, from him doing fraudulent activities on Ebay.

In all of this, my mum and I, have helped him financially and emotionally. We realise he wont talk to us, unless he wants to. My mum has suspected he may be on drugs, or he may have a mental illness.

Last night I beat the crap out of him. I was trying to stop him fighting with his girlfriend in the house when he decided to push me out of his way. I lost it with him, and beat him really bad, and im sad to say it felt good. I didn't hospitalise him but he definitely knew who I was last night.

The thing is we have done so much for him, been there, given him more chances than most people get in a lifetime and he is still v.disrespectful to my mum. He swears and curses at her when he loses his temper. he has one of those blind rages where if he had a weapon he would use it, without hesistation.

I just dont knwo what to do. I was so furious last nite, I almost packed a bag and checked into a hotel, but I was afraid to leave my mum alone in the house with him.

I help my mum financially as she has just paid of my dad to vacate the property. I pay lots of bills in the house including council tax, so I cant jsut up and leave.

But my mum wont seem to enforce the consequences of his behaviour. Im told to give him another chance, but how much am I supposed to take. And my mum just cant let him go. She says she wont give up on him, but when wil she, when she is dead???

I need advice?!!?