I am so confused. My gf and I have been together for almost 5 years. In the beginning we had amazing sex, and by that I mean we were just having SO MUCH fun with each other's bodies. We were always comfortable with each other and could discuss sex openly. We tried new things and were very active. After she started taking anti-depressants (which was just after our first year together), it waned a little, but we expected this. Over the last year, it has gone from less to practically none. When we are together, I feel as if I should "hurry up and finish". She has no desire for sex and has told me this. When we are not fighting about it, she says she doesnt want to be like this, but when we argue, it is all my fault and I am pressuring her and I am not sensitive enough. I try to be, I really do...but is it so wrong for me to also be hurt by this, by her lack of desire? She doesnt seem to think I have anything to complain about b/c my libido is very healthy. When I try to tell her that I feel undesirable to her, that angers her.

I am not sure what I am supposed to be doing to help her. I am so hurt and I feel very uncomfortable in this relationship now. I know sex is not everything, but am I wrong to think that it is important? We have no real intimacy of any kind eg. cuddling, having (non-sexual) bathes together, not even kissing or hugging unless I ask for it outright. What am I supposed to be feeling and doing, b/c according to her I am doing everyhting all wrong. I still love her very much and I dont want our relationship to end over sex, but it is becoming too much for me. Anyone out there who is going through this like I am??? Please help b/c I am at a loss.