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Sex Problems for Women

my bf and i have been together for about 3 months...but we've only had sex about 3 times. Most new relationships are all about sex in the beginning, but not this one. He doesn't seem so interested in it. He never initiates it (except for the first time). He's really busy with work and never has any time off, and he's in the middle of changing jobs (looking for a new one at the moment) so it could be stress. I talked to him about it. He told me that he truly does love me and but for some reason he just doesn't feel like having sex. I dont' think he has someone else. He's willing to work with me on the problem, but we don't know what to do. I don't want him to force himself to have sex with me if he really doesn't want it. We're great together everywhere else, just not in the bedroom. I'm not sure if it's cuz deep down he's just not that attracted to me...

what should we do?

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Be glad...trust me

All i can say is be glad that he is willing to work on it with you. A lot of ppl are touchy about this subject - especialy men. If he doesnt feel like having sex, it could be so many things. The best thing i think would be for him to see his doctor. Maybe its testosterone levels, stress, any number of physical things. If that doesnt work, you guys could see a sexual therapist together (if necessary). But in the meantime, just make sure to keep talking to one another and being as open and honest as you can (as nicely as u can), even if it may hurt the other person. Just talk and be gentle. It will work out if it can, trust me:)

Good luck!!