I have been with my partner for 18 months, having become engaged 3 months ago. Our love life was very healthy for the first 12 months or so but has stopped completely. My partner feels that the men in her life have only wanted her for her looks and used her for sex. She says that the thought of sex now makes her almost physically ill.

When I try to talk about it she becomes angry and irrate. We are trying for a baby by use of a syringe and I am beginning to feel very depressed about this, and feel that this is not normal. I really don't even know where to start as far as counselling or pschotherapy is concerned. I feel that if I approach her about sex therapy or something of the like, that she will become angry again and may even stop trying for our child. Can you help?