Secondary Anorgasmia?

Sex Problems for Women

I have never had a problem achieving orgasm when my current partner uses his fingers on my clitoris, but I never orgasm during intercourse (like so many women). However, I went away for a long weekend with my best friend and since I came back he hasn't been able to manke me orgasm, although he is not doing anything differently. It's frustrating both of us and I'm worried as I think it may ruin our wonderful sex life. He is now jumping to conclusions like I slept with someone else whilst I was away, which is not true. I think the weekend coinciding with it is just a coincidence but still..... Please help. I have tried to masturbate but that doesn't work either. My clitoris just isn't as sensitive as it used to be before I went away.
I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world and I don't want to lose him over something sex-based. However, it is beginning to really upset both of us and worry me! Thank you.

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Don't Panic!

This seems like coincidence to me. There are medical reasons for orgasms to disappear, so if there is no change over the next few months, then see a doctor. While you are this upset about it, the orgasm may prove very elusive! Try to focus on the other pleasures of lovemaking, and relax bit. The chemistry of worry and anxiety work against the chemistry of sexual pleasure!
I am sure it is not to do with the relationship, so don't break up over it.

It's Back!!!!

Thank you so much for your comment.
By boyfriend managed to make me orgasm for the first time in a long time a few days ago. It was only a small one, but it is definitely a start. He then did this again last night and it was a bit more substantial then the night before. I'm hoping it will continue to become easier and also that the orgasms will become better and better. Still no real cause, possibly just stress of work and other factors.
I just thought I would let you that it is gradually sorting itself out.
Thanks again.