I was in a relationship for 7 years, and around Thanksgiving time he decided he needed space and time. There were a mixture of reasons as to why he wanted to do this, too lengthy to get into, but we had a relationship that you don't find too often... we never fought, always got along and understood each other, we had wonderful sex (that was never a issue) and trusted each other totally. Finally in april, about 4 month's after he broke up with me, he called and we started seeing each other again. I found out he had dated this girl from work and she dumped him to go back to her ex who is suicidal. He told me how much she hurt him, and he would never go back. He had fallen for her and thought about marriage (in a matter of a few month's) Now she wants back in his life and he does not know how to deal with this, says this is confusing him. He has put me on the back burner again, stopped calling and seeing me and says he is going to get counseling to sort thru his emotions and that he never totally got over her. He says he has to let go of his emotions before he can give me ALL his heart. He also said, he can only hope I can accept that and to be able to give him the opportunity to do this. I need some insight on this. How do I handle this? What is he trying to tell me? I want to give him the time to sort thru things, but does it sound like he may go back to her even though it was only a few month's and with us it was 7 years? What will counseling bring out? Should I be the one to let go, knowing all that I know or should I hang in there and be patient? Please help, I am very confused and hurt. I am trying to understand what is going on with him, and where this may go. He must still have feelings for me too or he would not have wanted to see me again. Am I right or wrong on that?