I have been married for 23 years and out of those years together I have only had sex with my husband handful of times!

My husband has all ways been great in all every areas like giving a 100% to the children, sharing the responsiblities of the up keep of the house and working' He is kind and considerite in most areas but he has never wanted sex unless i make the first move.

Now the children have their own lives and have their own homes I feel it time for me to sort this situation out.

Over the last 23 years I have asked he on so many occation what was wrong, or is it me, or is he tired, or was he gay? When I was first married to him this use to cause a lot of arguments as I felt he was not telling me straight about the cause. He would say nothing at first, but as time went on he would give reasons like, i just got out of the habit of having sex which has caused him to have issues about the whole thing and he would sort it out.

Each time he said that things just went back to the way they were and in the end I suggested a sex counselling which didn't help ever.

He all way tells me he loves and fancies me when I ask him. This situation has caused me so much pain, confusion, anger and uncertenty of is he gay?
What can I do to ensure i can understand what is causing him to not want a sex relationship with me after 23 years of marriage and years of exploring different approaches to resolving the situation for the long term happiness for both of us?