I don't fit in with my family!

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I am the youngest of 5 children and feel like I really don't fit in with my family! All my brothers and sisters are married with children, I'm not and I hardly ever see them or speak to them! My oldest sister moved back to this country last week after living abroad and hasn't phoned me but has spoken to everyone else and most of the time I feel really left out and like I am not part of the family at all!

One of them is having a birthday party for their little girl on Sunday when I am usually doing something I do every week and really enjoy, but I am thinking that I will cancel and go to the birthday party because if I don't I will only be making things worse for myself!

I really don't know what to do!

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Family outcast?

How strange and painful your situaion seems! I cannot imagine what can be behind this, and suggest you go to the birthday party and try to pick up some clues.
Sometimes in families one member gets cast in a role he or she doesn't understand or deserve, but it is usually not a personal thing, although of course it feels very personal. It is sometimes to do with past family history not being completely finished with.
You will need the help of a therapist who understands this type of thing.
Go to www.hellinger.com, click on the international directory link, and see if you can find a therapist to help you.