I love her very much. Married her and look after her well and the children well. She cuddles up to me everynight with nothing but panties on. I get hard every night and am very patient waiting weeks sometimes for her to have sex with me. Sometimes I feel so horny I try to touch her more and try for lots of forplay. She seems to enjoy but then when I get right into touching her pussy she turns away. If she has been drinking she will enjoy and pretty much there is no holding back. We have a few years ago had lovely free sex in all places and most days. She was free and easy going. I always said this was an important part of a valuable relationship for me. I understand people change and love her very much now as always have. However I am totally frustrated with what feels like a total lack of love to also share and make me feel good.

I believe she does love me but seems to feel her needs are the only that matter.

I take time and care for her. She does nothing for me. If she does make love she would need to have her hand put on my penis to touch it and use it in a way she wishes. In the past she would be happy for everything and do things that like like to. She could experimant if she wanted but wishes to do nothing.

When I try and discuss it she either will not answer in bed just falling asleep even when she knows I may feel angry. I am always gentle with her and feel she takes advantage of that. She has just once said it could be a hormone imbalance or something. I wonder somtimes if she is just using me now. I work very hard for her and her family and I am a slim, nice body and attractive guy that ladies like. I want to stay true to her and have a long and happy relationship ebven when things are tough. But I cant play with myself for the rest of my life. How long do I have to wait. has she chaged for ever.

Any help with this would be a big help because it is affecting my life. I do have and always have had a high sex drive. Never wanted to hassle someone but I think I give more than most guys do in a relationship anyway. But just want a little back.

This is not uncommon. She wants cuddles and you want sex! Try just kissing or cuddling without turning it inbto sex and you will notice you get more cuddles. The more you try for sex the less you get it. She wants to know you desire her, but doesn't want to have to go the whole hog!