Constantly Messing Up

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I am in a serious relationship and keep messing up. I have quite low self esteem and am boring, I have no fun and don't have any friends around me to go out with or see.

My boyfriend has plenty of friends and often goes to the pub to see them, but whenever he does I always end up ringing him and texting him and he comes up but in a bad mood, understandably. I am trying really hard to try and stop this but its really hard, its like because I don't have a life of my own I need to make sure that I'm always part of his, but it is always messing things up!

Its not that I don't trust him, I do, implicitly, because I know he would never do anything to hurt me, its just that I can't appear to be normal and then I wonder why he is not happy around me! I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like people would be a lot happier without me!

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Low self esteem

You have got it in one! Your low self esteem is behind this and you need to get some help with it. There is a good book called Overcoming Low Self Esteem, by Melanie farrel, and you may decide to see a cognitive behavioural therapist to keep you on track. Therapy works very well for this, and you don't need many sessions. You do have to work at it, however, so be prepared to put effort into it.
Don't waste any more time bemoaning your behaviour, but set about changing it and you will feel better.