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A Different Crying During Sex Problem

Submitted by MinaLumina on Tue, 06/09/2005 - 17:40. Sex Problems for Women

The last time I had sex, with my fiance of a year and some, right when I came to orgasm I burst out crying instead. I've looked all over the internet and haven't found an instance of crying *instead* of orgasm. It's true I was sexually abused as a child, but I've been having sex for years without anything like this happening. My fiance was terrified he'd hurt me in some way and was looking me in the eyes to make sure I was all right, and all I wanted him to do was lay his head down and hold me. I couldn't stop crying for a few minutes, and after I was really just dissapointed I didn't come with him the way I thought I was going to. I'm hoping this is a one off. Does anyone know what happened? It was really good sex up to that point.

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I have experienced this

Submitted by Ibimias on Thu, 08/09/2005 - 11:19.

I have experienced this quite a few times and I have a different point of view. Having sex with someone you love can be very emotional and intense and combined with the intensity of an orgasm, or near orgasm, this can manifest itself in an emotional outburst where you end up crying and just wanting to be held. This is something my Mum once told me as well (we are quite close) she said "you know you are in love when you cry having sex". At the time I thought it was really strange but I now know what she means. Its not really a sad cry or a happy cry just a deep emotional thing. I think its perfectly fine.

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Thank you

Submitted by MinaLumina on Fri, 09/09/2005 - 03:23.

I find that very comforting. I didn't want to think it was yet another one of my many, many psychosis, especially since it wasn't sad or painful, just intense. I'm very happy to hear it might be something that romantic. You certainly have put a different spin on the subject. Thank you.

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Not unusual

Submitted by mpramage on Wed, 07/09/2005 - 08:10.

This is not unusual when someone has a past abuse, so there is no need to worry. It is just your body trying to help you get over what happened in your childhood, and will proably go on for a bit then stop. You are having a healthy reaction, and releasing some held in emotion. If it goes on for more than a few weeks, then you could consider seeing a therapist about the abuse, as I suspect it is directly related to that.

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