new partner has long-standing problem, he is 45 yrs old never married. he admits to "being a bit of a romeo" in his younger years.
his last relationship (7 yrs ago) broke up because of intermittent impotence and inability to orgasm.
we've discussed at length. he says, he cant even ejaculate very often with self masturbation. feels its a psychological problem, says his mind wanders during self pleasure or partner pleasure to other matters in his life that arent even important for instance "my cup of tea is getting cold" or "did i turn the tv off"
we have managed penetration once (he was "semi") and said that was the first time in two years he has managed to get that far.
how can i help him to focus on being pleasured.?
thanks.