I just started dating a great guy. he is attentive, fun, silly, we laugh together all the time and have mindblowing sex. However, he has many "qualities" that are questionable. He crosses his legs, flutters his eyes, very touchy-feely, is so supernice and sweet to me (which is one reason why i like him). When my girlfriends and I first met him, we all thought he way gay, and then he asked me out and we have been dating ever since, although the first few dates I was questioning if he was gay or not. Well, he is definitely not 100% gay as I realized when we hooked up the first time and had amazing sex, but now I wonder if he may be bisexual. One of the first few times we hung out, we went out with a group of ppl. He touched the shoulder of one of his guy friends, (who was married/now divorced and not openly gay, atleast from what I can tell), but it was in a way that was odd to me. all my friends and strangers have asked if he was gay when we go out, which is kind of embarrassing to me, but right now, i like him too much to worry about what other pple think.

Also, he mentioned that he has been to gay clubs before, and I joked with him, that I bet he gets hit on all the time when he goes, and he said no, b/c he never makes eye contact and looks uncomfortable when he is there, but he joked back and said that he gets hit on at straigt bars sometimes, because he comes across very confident. but he said he was straight.

I am just very confused. Before I go any further in this relationship, I want to know what the situation is. I have a right to know, right?. I think it is possible he either has had experiences in the past or just does not realize it yet. It may be he is gay, but can't/won't admit to it, because of his catholic upbringing or republican/conservative views (a whole other issue) I am just afraid that months downt the road, he may end up coming out or disclosing his past history to me, which would devastate me. Am I being overly paranoid, since I do not have any real evidence? Should I discuss this with him, and if so, how would I even bring it up??? I do not want to insult him, but at the same time, if I want to continue this relationship, should I not be open and honest with him about my concern???

I NEVER had to question this type of thing with other guys i have dated...ever. So why am I now?

that means nothing at all and I would just forget about it if I were you. although I am gay, I had a lot of experiences like that with guys of my age at school. guys of that age do fool around and it really is just a way of experimenting and in a sense "bonding" within ones own gender. as we age, we grow out of that phase and I think your bf has done just that and is now attracted to you and comfortable in his sexuality, or he would not have been able to tell you about this.

I am the youngest of 12 brothers - trust me, when you have that many men together... I have seen all of my brothers naked and hard. with that many in the family, there really was no room to be shy or have secrets. we are not an incest family or anything of that nature (please do not think that) and in any case, aside from three of my other brothers, the rest of them are 100 per cent straight (only the younger ones are gay, with the exception of my next eldest brother who is straight and yet we pretty much all had these experiences.

he says he loves you - so take that at face value and may I wish you all the happiness...