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Submitted by Anonymous on Sat, 23/07/2005 - 09:18. Sex Problems for Women

It would be wonderful if my wife's sex drive could be shut off! We are early 50's and have been married two years. I am impotent and have no sexual desires at all. I enjoy my wife's companionship and her happiness means everything to me. Due to a family history of prostate cancer I'm advised to not take testosterone. My wife is still in full bloom with post menopause not in sight. She says I'm the cause of her being turned on, because I'm so sweet and affectionate with her. Since there is no hope of my becoming potent, it would be great if my wife could become impotent, like me. I know this is backwards from what most couples are trying to achieve. Any suggestions on how my wife can shut down her sex drive?

I've also heard marriage without sex can be wonderful, when both spouses are asexual. Comments from asexual heterosexual couples are appreciated.

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wife's sex drive

Submitted by bleedingheart on Tue, 20/09/2005 - 18:17.

There are other ways besides intercouse to satisfy your wife. Have you tried oral sex? How about bringing her to orgasm with your fingers, or even a vibrator. You can still kiss, caress, and cuddle.
It is also possible for you to still be potent without taking testosterone. you may want to talk to your doctor about this.

You could also be intimate (cuddling, holding, kissing) while she masterbates. You may both find this very exciting. Personally I LOVE to watch my soul mate reach orgasm even if I do not. Sometimes we can both enjoy sex even when only one of us has an orgasm.

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Impotent

Submitted by mpramage on Sat, 23/07/2005 - 11:16.

Your impotence is curious, as most men would consider that at your age you would be interested in sex and potent, history of prostate cancer notwithstanding. Most men your age do not need testosterone supplements to have sexual desire and potency. Your wife seems well and healthy, why would you want her to adjust herself, when your impotence is possibly psychological rather than due to medical reasons?

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cause of impotence

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 27/07/2005 - 13:40.

Three years before we married as a single man it was my choice to have my testicles removed for medical reasons. I was celibate 3 years then met and fell in love with my wife. Early in dating I told her I was castrated and could not function and she had no objections. We were in love and still are. I have tried different ways to please her, but its become a barrier to our happiness. We are going to see a councilor. I was hoping someone on this formum would know something about stopping a woman's sex drive short of a hysterectomy.

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Hysterectomy will have no eff

Submitted by mpramage on Thu, 28/07/2005 - 13:28.

Hysterectomy will have no effect on a woman's sex drive!! A sex drive is a normal natural part of being human. Many castrated men have a sex drive, as the testicles are not the only source of testosterone. Women also make testosterone. Sex drive is part of a person's identity and sense of who they are. Just because you have opted for sugical removal for your own reasons, you would not really try to impose that on another person would you? That would be disrespectful, surely?

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i cant believe this...

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 29/07/2005 - 00:45.

if she is craving sex so deeply and on such an emotional level (as her comments of being turned on by your affection and kindness...thats not just old lust my friend) it would be absolutely selfish to tell her to give that up only because you believe she should!! So selfish. Please try to actually LISTEN to her needs and if you cannot meet those needs help her find a comfortable medium which may or may not involve you. But shame on you for wanting to take away her sexuality simply because it is an annoyance to you.

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