Hi,

I'm 29 my boyfriend is 37 we have been together 9 years & have three children together. Our sex life has gone from amazing to nothing, last time we had sex was 3 months ago and it was pretty awful!! He wants me experiment more I just feel fat, since having children I havn't been the same... I don't feel very nice at all!!! I really want sex with him but I feel i need to be drunk to enjoy it..!! over months I think he's now got bored, so he doesn;t come near me, no affection at all, no cuddles, kisses nothing!!! It doesn't even seem like we can have a conversation anymore. He says he's living with a stranger! I have caught him looking at porn.. and this has upset me, so he has said he won't look at it anymore. Then 2 nights ago he was acting strange on the pc and I looked the next morning what he had been looking at, and it was women.. beautiful women in suspenders dancing about, showing everything! Now in 9 years I have never worn suspenders, I didn't know that was what he was into? surely he should have said? I have tried other sexy underwear but he never comments on it?
He told me yesterday he thinks I've put on weight, he wants me to feel confident.. and when we have sex he doesn;t want me to just lie there!! however he doesn;t want to force me to do anything I don;t want.