I met my girlfriend 2 years and we became good friends. 18 months ago we started going out with each other. We really got on brilliantly and as early as 6 months we were talking of moving in together. There were a variety of reasons that this proved not to be a good idea so we agreed to leave it till a more suitable time. One of the main reasons though being my gfs study which takes up a huge amount of her time which we agreed should be an absolute priority.

We don’t argue, we laugh together have a wonderful loving relationship and share interests despite there being 10 years difference in our age although she told me she wanted to be with her friends more and worried that because we had so little time together that this would be unacceptable. I agreed that it was not at all unreasonable and we mixed the 3 things together. Her parents, whilst liking me as a person, did not initially agree with the relationship because of the age difference. This put obvious pressure on my girlfriend but 3 months ago they relented in so much as saying they didn’t think it was ideal but that they would support her as it seemed she had made her mind up to go ahead with it.

She has never been in a long relationship and told me that she has run away from relationships because of a fear of commitment and a need to control her emotions for fear of getting hurt. After a year of going out we came back from a 2 week break and within a week she had told me she was having a serious "wobble" with regard to the whole commitment thing. We talked and I managed to allay some of her fears about what she assumed a serious relationship would entail. To her it was almost the end of life as we know it because that’s what happens when you settle down. We agreed that the subject of moving in should be left for the foreseeable future so that the relationship could continue on its course. She agreed that this would be good and we carried on. 4 months later she spoke to me again and said she was worried about the whole commitment thing and again we talked and again we agreed that we could continue and that it was another "wobble". Since then I have obviously been worried about the next wobble and when it might come although I have managed to put it to the back of my mind and the relationship continued as normal with us getting along great and sharing wonderful experiences.