I've been married for 18 years and ever since my son left for college in August, I have noticed a change in my behavior towards my husband. He is retired and spends a lot of time in the lounge chair reading the news and doing other cerebral things. I resent his not doing his share of work here. I also get angry when he disrespects my work (walks through the house with dirty boots, for example). His lack of initiative drives me crazy, perhaps because I am so very motivated to improve my home and farm and I really like to do physical work. Hence, the problem I am encountering.
How do 2 different people maintain communication and a marriage? I realize the focus is off my son and probably I see too much of my husband each day. I need to tell you that I am a cancer survivor of 5 years and perhaps I am just plain scared at times. Most of the days I am hopeful, but when I see this 62 year old man not doing much, why does it bother me so much? My feelings for him have gone downhill since the cancer scare in 2003 and I am wondering if I should stay with him.

Find myself being drawn to pay internet chat sites. At this point it's not even about sexual gratification. I've made some friends and also live out some mild fantasies. The disturbing part is that I can't stop and I'm spending money that I shouldn't. I'm in therapy but have a hard time discussing this with my therapist. Also fear SAA as I'm embarrassed to talk, in public, about this. Does anyone have ways to help keep myself away from these sites or know of any online support groups?