I have been with my fiancée for a bout 7 years on and off. We have had a healthy sex life up until now. There has been some issues about other women (not cheating). I have caught him looking at porn while i'm gone a lot. He also has a lying problem. I have caught him lying to me so many times I cant count anymore. Now we have sex about twice a month. I am not happy with that. As many times as I bring it up he really doesn't try to change it. He told me that he doesn't really have the drive like he used to, but then I caught him flirting and e-mailing girls on myspace. If he doesn't have the drive then he shouldn't even be interested in other woman either right?

It really hurts my feelings it makes me feel as though its me that he doesn't want anymore. I'm at the point where if we don't get counseling soon its going to really affect our relationship for good. I have mentioned counseling and he says yes, but he doesn't do anything about it. I probably should do it, but I would like some effort on his part to show that he cares to try to save this relationship. I know that he loves me. I also know that he knows how much all of this bothers me. he also has been having some problems with ED which makes me feel even worse.

I know no one likes to hear that someone is being abused in a relationship and i know that everyone always thinks thats its the female that suffers the abuse, but i hate to admit it, but i hit and shout at my boyfriend.

He is finally leaving me after 3 years together and i'm absolutely devastated. We've had such a hard time together, meeting at work, both separating from our previous relationships, him having 2 children. My ex husband has met my partner and i get on better which him that i did when i was married to him. My partners estranged wife however, still makes things as difficult as possible 3 years later.

I never thought it would be this hard. I thought that our love for each other would be enough to carry us through. But his guilt for leaving his children is so great, it clouds over everything.

I get so angry that i don't get much thought from him that i used to and i shout and i hate to say it, but when i have a drink, there have been occasions that i've lashed out and hit him and scratched his face. He has made excuses for me and i still did it again.

I hate the person i am and i love him to bits. i wish i had learned how to control my temper and anger and i wish i had done this so long ago. He is now in the process of leaving me. He says he still loves me but that something just clicked and he says he's not happy.