I've posted on here about this before and the advice was to try and talk to her about it. I have been with my fiance for nearly five years now and sex is now a very rare luxury. We had sex as often as anyone else at the beginning but has now trailed off to a once a month thing or once every two month type thing. I tried talking to her last night and she just said she was "lazy" about it now and has never really been interested in sex! we ended up arguing about it when I told her something is wrong and I'd like to find out what it is that is wrong. Then this a.m we were OFF with each other for a bit but after a while she cuddled me but no more was mentioned about the "conversation"!?

I love her and am sure she loves me but she says sex isnt a big part of a relationship for her, which I cant understand as I love sex and believe it IS a big part of a relationship, I'm trying hard not to stray and go behind her back with someone, its something I dont agree with but find myself tempted to do it more and more often! will I end up doing it...I dont know, but like I said to her last night, for me, I cant live the rest of my life with her in this way, I know when we get married nothing will change and I need to express my love with her in a sexual way aswell as in all other ways.