My boyfriend of several years just recently proposed to me and I was elated to accept his offer. Later that night he had to confess something to me. He has been seeing a professional dominatrix on occasion. This has been going on even before I came into the picture. I understand that there is no sex involved and I even understand his "psychological need for it". My problem is that I feel inadequate because there is something he needs emotionally that he cant or does not feel like he can get from me. I understand his needs and would be more than happy to learn how to provide for them. But it feels weird to me to learn and start because he has been going to a professional for so long and would this actually good for "us" and our relationship, or do I just let it go "out of sight out of mind". I love him very much and would do anything for him.

Hi all,

Thanks for taking the time to read this and offer help and suggestions. I am a 23 year old gay man. I met my current partner about 2 1/2 years ago in Reno and we have been together for about 2 years.

Our relationship had always been strong, loving, caring. We hardly ever had problems, and the few problems we did have, were completely normal problems that were quickly solved. My partner had always been the one to show love more than I - we were truely unseperable.

We moved in together about 6 months into our relationship and have lived together since then, for about 1 1/2 years. Roughly 7 months ago, we had a problem where we were getting in pointless, stupid arguments often 2-3 times a week. One particular night during one of our stupid fights, my partner came out and told me he almost cheated on me last week. I was completely devastated at this, but me being a strong person we talked it over. I was still upset at the fact he "almost" cheated on me, yet felt releif that he did not. We both spent that night talking everything over, and promised to do everything in our power to no longer fight, and continue making the relationship stronger. At that point on, I worked very hard on making my partner happy, and he made me very happy too. We got a dog during that time aswell. I finally felt as if any of our problems were over and we finally were to start living a happy committed life because we both worked hard at what was important to us.